represent™ magazine sat down and talked to teens about what they think of dating in this latest installment of "Marriage: What We Really Think," a four part series on marriage, dating, relationships, and family.
r: How does a relationship start for teens today?
Male (17): I think you have to be friends first, because if you can't be friends with a person, how can you spend the rest of your life with her?
Female (18): I think it's important to get to know him/her; hang out with a person.
Male (16): You need to meet the person, spend time with her, and discover the things you have in common. It's okay to disagree but you want to like her personality, be able to hang out and spend time with her.
r: As the relationship progresses into a dating relationship, what things change?
Female (16): Well, you definitely start to share more, a lot more-like share secrets, likes, dislikes, spend time together.
Male: (18): You also spend more time with each other's family and get to really know each other, like outside of school.
Female (18): You want to make sure, though, that you are still spending time with each other's friends. You don't want to only be hanging out together all the time. Share your friends, go shopping, see movies.
Male (17): You want to be completely comfortable with that person.
r: What do you mean by comfortable? How do teens take that?
Male (17): Like you can tell them anything and not be embarrassed or worried about what they're going to think.
Female (18): It's all about trust.
Female (16): Totally! You need to be able to just hang out and not get dressed up all the time. I mean, I want to be able to just hang out in sweats with my boyfriend and know that I can just be myself.
r: What else is important in a dating relationship for teens?
Male (18): You've got to be able to trust that everything's going to go right and that she won't drag you down.
Male (17): You need support.
Female (16): You want your boyfriend to make you better.
r: What kind of things might make a relationship not work or drag you down?
Female (18): Alcohol. Peer pressure at parties. You both need to be on the same page when it comes to those types of pressures.
Male (17): Cheating is an issue for some of my peers. That definitely puts a strain on things!
Male (18): Clinginess! Girls who are way too clingy can make things in the relationship difficult.