Are you curious about what makes a successful marriage? What can save a marriage from negativity, criticism, and contempt? Knowing these principles of healthy marriage will provide valuable guidance for your son or daughter in their relationships. John M. Gottman claims to have found the key through the unique research in his book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Each week, learn more about Gottman's experiments and his surprisingly simple conclusions about the power of friendship in a marriage!
Part 1 of 6: Which of the following do you think describes a couple's "Love Map," a vital component of a healthy relationship?
a. A plan for active, loving communication
b. Strategy for regaining loving feelings when arguing
c. Intimate familiarity with your spouse's world
d. A plan for a romantic getaway to escape stress
Answer: C. Many married couples actually have no idea what experiences, goals, and people are important to their spouse. Any attempt at effective communication, including the most well-planned strategy or elaborate getaway, will be undermined if the husband and wife are virtual strangers. According to Dr. Gottman, really knowing your spouse involves the profound and the mundane elements of life: Goals and dreams as well as food likes and dislikes; what makes your spouse happy or angry, and also his or her favorite color. Gottman stresses the necessity of creating a shared world of understanding. Next week, learn about the way happily married couples talk about their past together.